My Take on a Book Review #7 – The School of Greatness by Lewis Howes

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This book was recommended to me by a few people, and it was also referenced in a few other books I’ve read.  So it was definitely high on my list…and it didn’t disappoint!

He’s also got a great podcast where he interviews some amazing people, and a website where you can learn more about his story, see his books, and obtain other information.

There are 8 chapters each devoted to help you become your greatest self.  At the end of each chapter he provides practical exercises to do based on that chapter.  He shares stories about some amazing people he’s met over the years from Olympians to people who’ve overcome major obstacles to be successful in life.

Here’s a couple of my quick takeaways from each chapter:

  1. Create a vision – this is about clearly defining what you want (your goals) & who you want to be (your dreams).  “You become what you envision yourself being”.
  2. Turn adversity into an advantage – This is my favourite quote from this chapter “To be good at something requires talent, vision, & action.  Greatness is what remains when that talent & vision meet adversity…& persist in the face of it”.  Adversity gives you opportunities to figure out what is not working and how to make it work.
  3. Cultivate a champion’s mindset – “Our inner voice – our belief in ourselves – is what determines our mindset.  And our way of thinking sets us up for failure or success”.   Gratitude journals are discussed, knowing your strengths and weaknesses (so you can work on your weaknesses), and having honest people around you that will help you foster your champion’s mindset.
  4. Develop hustle – “If you want to be the best, you have to do things other people aren’t willing to do”.  Some things that hold people back from hustling are the fear of looking bad, the fear of failure, the fear of success.  You need to genuinely put yourself out there.
  5. Master your body – Sleep!  If you want to make a change, then something has to be different than you’re doing now in order to get better/different results.  For the acronym lovers out there here’s a good one to find out what’s MISSING in your life:
    • Minerals
    • Inflammation
    • Stress
    • Sleep
    • Inhalation (deep breathing)
    • Nutrient density
    • Gut health
  6. Practice positive habits – the obvious ones (smoking, drinking, poor eating habits), the non-obvious ones (jealousy, anger, ego, smart financial decisions, respect).  When you meet successful people observe which positive habits have made them successful (he describes some of the positive habits the wealthiest people in the world have)
  7. Build a winning team – “You’ll never outperform your inner circle.  If you want to achieve outer success, improve your inner circle”.  All people on the team need to work towards the same direction/goal.
  8. Live a life of service – Get involved in giving back.  Find something that you can really support, something that you genuinely care about and find ways to support it.  Monetary, with your time, your resources, your expertise…anything!  You will feel so great!

This was really a great book!  Easy to read, not that long (240 pages), and LOTS of practical tips/exercises in each chapter to help you live your best life and be GREAT!

 

 

 

 

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My Take on a Book Review #6 – Rising Strong – Brene Brown

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Another fantastic book by Brene Brown!  Read it!  (Should I end the post there?!)

This book is about overcoming adversity and how to “Rise Strong” from these experiences.  Great for anyone going through change professionally or personally…which is pretty much all of us.

Bravery and courage are themes in this book.  There were a lot of quotes I liked in this book.
“If we are brave enough often enough, we will fall; this is they physics of vulnerability”
“Courage is contagious” so true…in light of the recent Bell Let’s Talk Day, I saw so many people sharing their story because someone else was courageous enough to share.
“Once we start being brave we can never go back.  Courage transforms the emotional structure of our being.  It can also reignite our sense of purpose”

There is a process to Rising Strong.  Reckoning, Rumble, Revolution.
1. Reckoning – where we recognize the emotion and how it connects to the way we think and behave.  Where we chose courage over comfort.
“Denying emotion is like never taking your car out of the garage.  It’s safe in there, but you’ll never go anywhere”

2. Rumble – where we have to be honest about the stories we’re making up about our struggle (choose courage over comfort).  Then challenge them to determine the truth and what needs to change.  This is what is the hardest and takes the most time.  She spends the majority of the book talking about the “rumble”.
Topics she covers: boundaries, integrity, generosity, expectations, disappointment, resentment, heartbreak, grief, forgiveness, empathy, connection, judgement, asking for help, fear, shame, perfectionism, accountability, trust, failure, regret, criticism.  Big topics with big emotions!
“Expectations are resentments waiting to happen”
“When perfectionism is driving, shame is riding shotgun”
“Comparison sucks the creativity and joy right out of life”

3. Revolution – writing a new ending to your story based on what you’ve learned.  Transforming the way you live.
“There is no greater threat to the critics and cynics and fear mongers than those of us who are willing to fall because we have learned how to rise”

Just another great book by Brene Brown.  She is such a powerful person and great writer.  In case you missed my other posts on her books…take a look:
Daring Greatly
The Gifts of Imperfection

My Take on a Book Review #2 – Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

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First, if you’ve never heard of Brene Brown you need to watch her TED talk on “The Power of Vulnerability” and her TED talk on “Listening to Shame”.  She is just phenomenal!  She is a researcher on shame and vulnerability, which sounds awful!!  But she’s written about some pretty amazing and powerful things in her books.

I just finished reading this book for a second time…and will definitely be reading it a 3rd, 4th, 5th time too.  What a GREAT book!  You ALL need to read it.  I could write a million words about the awesomeness of this book, but you just need to read it!

Scarcity, vulnerability, and shame are the main themes of this book, something we all experience in every aspect of our lives…career, personal life, and social life.

She talks about scarcity – we’re never enough.    Think about it…your thoughts of “not enough” are always first in your mind (“I didn’t get enough sleep” or “I don’t have enough time” etc etc etc).
The opposite of scarcity isn’t abundance, it is “enough”.
Three questions to ask yourself to see if there’s scarcity in your life:
1. Shame.  Is there fear of ridicule?  Is your self worth tied to achievement?  Is blaming the norm?
2. Comparison.  Has creativity been suffocated?  Is there constant comparison?
3. Disengagement.  Are you afraid to take risks/try new things?  Is it easier to be quiet?  Is it a struggle to be heard?

Her definition of vulnerability is – uncertainty, risk, emotional exposure.  It sounds like the truth and feels like courage.  It’s where courage and fear meet.
Think about it….when someone else shows vulnerability we think they’re courageous.  When you think about being vulnerable yourself you are scared to death!  Our biggest critic is ourselves.

Shame – anytime you’ve been afraid to speak up or share an idea….that’s shame.  Being afraid of belittled or being wrong…that’s shame.   Shame is not the same at guilt… Shame = I am bad.  Guilt = I did something bad.
There’s a whole chapter on how we feel shame.  How men feel shame, how women feel shame, bullying, etc.  Read it twice.  Great chapter!

There’s a chapter on shame in the workplace…and important one for any leaders out there.  “Shame can only rise so far in a system before people disengage to protect themselves.  When we’re disengaged, we don’t show up, we don’t contribute, and we stop caring”.  NOT GOOD!

There’s also a great chapter on parenting and shame, perfectionism, belonging, modelling who we want our children to be.  READ IT!

Some of my favourite quotes from this book:
“Shame resilience is key to embracing our vulnerability.  We can’t let ourselves be seen if we’re terrified by what people might think.  Often not being good at vulnerability means that we’re damned good at shame”.

“A sense of worthiness inspires us to be vulnerable, share openly, and persevere.  Shame keeps us small, resentful, and afraid”.

“If you’re not in the arena with the rest of us fighting and getting your ass kicked on occasion, I’m not interested in your feedback”….so if you’re not showing vulnerability but like to criticize me, I’m not interested in what you have to say.  Even more important in with all the social media critics out there!

There’s so much more in this book, but I promised myself that I’d keep these reviews short (so that you’d actually read them!).  Just go buy this book and read it.  Over and over and over!

My take on a book review #1 – How to Win Friends & Influence People

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I’d heard of this book numerous times and it was recommended to me by a few people, so I finally decided to read it…and I’m glad I did.

This book was published in 1936…which scared me off at first (thinking that a book that old would be boring and out of touch), but it’s amazing how relevant this information still is!  My first thought as I was reading through it was….DUH!  Who doesn’t know these things. Here’s a very brief review of my favourite parts of the book.

How to make people like you:  Smile.  Be genuinely interested in other people.  Remember a person’s name (so hard!).  Be a good listener (even harder!).   Encourage others to talk about themselves, and then talk to them about their interests.  Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely.

DUH…right?!  These are things that have worked forever (since before 1936 apparently!), but so many people either don’t do them or suck at them…myself included!

To to win people to your way of thinking:  Welcome a disagreement, but avoid an argument….think about that.  Who wants a disagreement?  But who can welcome a disagreement without an argument?  That’s a tough one to wrap my head around!
Here are a few tips from the book to help you accomplish this…distrust your first instinct which is usually to become defensive, control your temper, listen first to what they have to say (wait…didn’t I already mention listening?!), look for areas you can agree, sincerely promise to think about their ideas and try to see things from their point of view, be honest (if you screwed up admit it!), postpone any action until both sides have had a chance to think about the conversation.  One quote stuck with me on this… “anyone who takes the time to disagree with you is interested in the same things you are”…so use this to your advantage and get their help to come up with a solution.

How to be an effective leader:  There are so many books on this topic!  There are some interesting points that I took away from this particular book.   There are lots of other good ones, but these were my favourites:
– I had heard of this before and read about it in this book…If you have to criticize, use praise before you criticize and replace the word “but” with “and”.  The word “but” is extremely powerful and will completely ruin anything you said before it.  Think about times that you’ve heard or said “but” and change the sentence to replace it with “and”.  Completely changes the tone/meaning, doesn’t it!
– Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement.  The comment “we praise a dog for the slightest improvement and it works!  Why don’t we do that for humans?”  Ya, why don’t we?!

I could bore you and elaborate on all of these ideas, but this post is already plenty long enough…and you really should read the book!  Within the chapters it delves into more great information on how to accomplish these tasks and why they’re so important (in case you didn’t think they were!).

If you’ve read the book please share your favourite things about it!

My take on a book review…

Ever since I finished my degree in spring of 2017 (BEST FEELING EVER!!!), I was excited to start reading for ‘fun’ again and not because I ‘had to’ for school (even though most of my classes were quite interesting).  I read probably half a dozen “fun” books as I call them…aka fiction.  When I was about ½ way through the one I thought to myself….what am I doing, why am I reading this useless book.  Don’t get me wrong, I do enjoy fiction…but I’d obviously read one too many of them!

So, after a few conversations with people I compiled a list of non-fiction books to read and started on that list!  Nerd alert….I decided to make some notes on these books for myself so that I could reference back to my main takeaways from them without having to re-read them (I’m not against re-reading, it’s just that my list of books to read is getting longer and longer so I don’t have time to re-read right now!).  Then, with more discussions I was encouraged to blog these notes…sort of my take on a book review I suppose.

Some of the books I’ve read (& will blog/write a review about in the future):

Daring Greatly – Brene Brown
The Gifts of Imperfection – Brene Brown
The Five Love Languages – Gary Chapman
Make It Stick – Brian, Roediger, McDaniel
The 80/20 Principle – Richard Koch
The No Asshole Rule – Robert Sutton
The 4 Hour Workweek – Timothy Ferris
How to Win Friends & Influence People – Dale Carnegie
The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F@#$ – Mark Manson
You Are a Badass – Jen Sincero

On my reading list (and growing daily!):

Rising Strong – Brene Brown
Braving The Wilderness – Brene Brown
Option B – Sheryl Sandberg
The School of Greatness – Lewis Howes
On Fire – John O’Leary
Girl Boss – Sophie Amoruso

Would love to hear of some other must read books out there!
Stay tuned for my first unofficial book review….is there a book you’d like a review on first?

 

Olympics…Do They Inspire You?

The Olympics just finished and I’m kind of sad!  I wait anxiously for the 2 weeks every 2 years when I can watch the Olympics on TV and watch sports that I would never otherwise watch!  There’s just something about thousands of athletes giving it there all for their country after training so hard for that one moment.  I find it amazing how hard these athletes train all their lives for one potential opportunity to compete once every 4 years.  They give up everything (jobs, family time, maybe some friendships) and they may not even make it to the Games.  But it is so exciting watching the passion these athletes have for their sport and the drive and determination to perform their best.  It breaks my heart when someone fails or falls or  injures themselves…they are so devastated having worked so hard and then not being able to show that off.

Even more inspiring could be the Paralympics!  Those athletes have overcome some amazing obstacles to get where they are.  I sure hope there is decent coverage of the games (They start next week!) with some back stories of these phenomenal athletes!

It often makes me wonder…how much passion must you have for that one sport or skill that you are willing to sacrifice so much in order to make it that far!  Are any of you that passionate about anything in your life that you can become that successful?  Are you that passionate about your career, your family, your hobbies?  I can think of a few people who are.

I’ve always thought that entrepreneurs must be that passionate about their idea in order to take that big of a risk in opening a new business.  Or new authors who write their first books hoping that people will like their stories.  Or anyone with that much passion that they will put themselves out there with the risk of failure!

So, for me there is more to watching the Olympics than just watching the Olympics!  It makes me think about the many people in my life who have that drive and passion to do great things!  Hopefully you can find something in your life that makes you feel like an Olympian!