I didn’t make a lot of notes on this book, as I thought a lot of it was common sense. I enjoyed the book and think it would be a good one for people in charge of hiring, supervisors, or anyone in a leadership role….or anyone who works with a bunch of assholes!
Disclaimer….there’s a lot of use of the word “asshole” in this book (& in this post). So if you’re offended by that maybe stop reading this and don’t read the book!
It mostly discusses how to keep assholes out of your workplace, or if you’re stuck with them how to try and fix them. Trying to make examples of them so that nobody else acts like them, call them on their behaviour 100% of the time (don’t ever let them get away with their asshole behaviour), and encourage them when they do act appropriately (“see you aren’t always an asshole!”).
If you’re stuck working with assholes and either can’t get rid of them, or aren’t in a position where you’re allowed to get rid of them (i.e. not the boss) it gives you some tips on how to deal with them and not lose your mind.
A couple of quotes I liked from the book:
“Fight as if you are right, listen as though you are wrong”. Listening is so so so important (I think I might’ve mentioned that in another blog post?!). Even if you don’t like the person, they deserve the respect of being listened to. If you’re a leader having to give them feedback finding the spot between being constructive enough and critical enough is tough. There’s some good info in this book about leading an asshole!
“To keep your inner asshole from getting out, be aware of the people and places that turn you into an asshole”. This is probably my favourite line in the whole book because it is so true! Have you ever been having a decent day and then you encounter someone who isn’t…they can drag you down with their asshole-ness almost instantly. Sometimes we can’t avoid these toxic people, but I try to do my best to limit the time I’m around these people.
Again, this would be a great book for anyone who has assholes in their workplace…regardless of if you’re the boss or not!